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October 02 2017

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July 26 2017

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June 18 2017

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every time I see this it gets reblogged

June 01 2017














i swear to god, men raising their voice is the most terrifying thing in the whole world. they dont understand, like its an immediate panic response, game over

I actually had no idea women found this so scary

my downstairs neighbors fight on a regular basis, and every time he starts yelling i’m a little afraid he’s going to kill her. i have no reason to think this except that he is a man and he is angry

My math teacher has a loud voice and a temper and he scares the living shit out of me almost everyday. He’s made me and other kids cry more than once and he and his teacher buddies make a joke out of terrifying students.

this was women in general? i knew my gf didn’t like it but I was unaware if this affected most women

Yes, it does

As a woman, I had no idea it effected other women like this. I was too afraid to even talk about it. I thought I was weak. Thanks for bringing attention to this.

My dad thinks it’s funny that I used to cry when he raised his voice. I freak out whenever some one does. Once my director did, and I started crying I couldn’t stop. I’m glad to see I’m not alone…

This is so important– seeing how common this is– and I also want you all to know that this is not normal. It isn’t something instinctively ingrained into women, to be afraid of men. There is no natural state of men being a threat that women constantly have to be afraid of. This is cultural. So many women and girls here have a mutual understanding of this feeling, and I think it really shows an unsettling truth about our society, particularly about how men are raised to act and how so many women have this defensive reaction gradually develop. It’s so important that these people have their voices heard, because it teaches us about problems that we just can’t deny the existence of any longer.

I’m glad I’m not the only one

My fellow men, pay attention. I didn’t realize how scary this could be until one of my exes explained it to me, and it’s heartbreaking.

Also, when we move too much during an argument, or lean forward, it’s scary, and I never knew. I was even a little insulted at first, because surely she didn’t think I would hurt her. But see, that doesn’t matter. It wasn’t a sign that she mistrusted me specifically; it’s a conditioned response. (Although if you keep doing it once you realize it scares her, she SHOULDN’T trust you.)

Not every woman has been physically harmed by a man she trusted, but every woman KNOWS a woman who has.

I used to be horrible about this, because I didn’t realize how intimidating it was. I didn’t understand why the woman I was with clammed up or tried to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear, and I only got angrier, and acted even more like an asshole. It was wrong. It was abusive. It didn’t matter if I INTENDED it that way; it was still emotionally abusive. And it was inexcusable.

I get that when passions are high, and when you’re frustrated, it’s a natural tendency to let your voice get louder, to shout and gesture and lean forward. But you can train yourself to do better. You can train yourself to keep more of an even tone, to refrain from large and fast gestures, to not lean into her personal space. I did. I’m not perfect at it yet, but goddamn it, I WILL be.

Don’t tell me it’s too hard, that you just can’t do it, or that you “shouldn’t have to.” I’m 53 years old and just now getting the hang of it, and if this old dog can learn something new, so can you.

Pay attention to that last reblog.
@anexperimentallife, thank you. I hope more men take your lead.

I constantly remind my roommate when we argue when he starts shouting. He doesn’t even realize. I am always hyperaware of when I’m raising my voice, women are conditioned by society to be quiet, to not be “shrill” or “bitchy” or “talk too much.” We reign ourselves in constantly. We stifle ourselves. We don’t speak up. We don’t yell in public. And so many men don’t even realize when they’re using their height to loom, or raising their voice to yell. They don’t even notice. 

I always thought it was because I was autistic and was sensitive to loud noise, but my dad will scream at me for the smallest things (good example is spilling a glass of water on the carpet by accident). And of course it’ll always be my fault because I should’ve been more careful. Is that a thing? Because  I’ve been told numerous amounts of times by therapists that I was disrespecting him by not being careful. 

April 16 2017

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Si la migra aparecen en su puerta

  • no abras la puerta. Estate calmado. Usted tiene derechos.
  • Si piden entrar, pregunten si tienen una orden firmada por un juez.
  • Si dicen que lo tienen, piden verlo.
  • Una orden de administración de ICE (formulario 1-200, 1-205) no les permite entrar a su hogar sin su consentimiento.
  • Si no tienen una orden firmada por un juez, usted puede negarse a dejarlos entrar
  • Si se fuerzan, no resistan. Dile a todos en la residencia que permanezcan en silencio.
  • Si usted es arrestado, permanezca en silencio y no firme nada hasta que hable con un abogado.
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is…..is that the new wood hammer animation?

they’re fucking dead and you’re wondering about the new wood hammer animation


“ cant make an omelette without breaking a few eggs”

March 16 2017


also: happy women’s history month to every trans woman
you’re constantly erased from history and pushed out of women’s spaces but you belong there and you have always been important parts of history.
let’s not forget trans women this year.

March 15 2017

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im crying

Do you know how many dogs I’ve met that get scared or anxious around men because in their previous home men hit them? A lot, and they are very protective of the women who have adopted them now.

Men who are violent towards women are often violent towards animals as well. They think we’re all chattel. If a man wants you to choose between your dog or cat or him, dump the guy. Those animals will love you for the rest of your life, loyal and true.

Actually, I have something to add.

The other day I saw a story where a woman was asking why her dogs had suddenly started growling at her boyfriend whenever he was in the same room as her son.

And my immediate thought was ‘that boyfriend has hurt the kid somehow.’

Spoilers: that was exactly the case.

Trust ur dogs when they say something is off.

The first time my sister came to visit, via plane, after I got my dog, pupper growled at her and wouldn’t go near her for the first day. Next visit was by car (two day drive)and pupper LOVED my sister. They snuggled and played and none of us could figure out why the change. We thought maybe the scent of my sisters cat had lingered on her clothes, making that first visit a rough one. Whereas when she came by car, the scent had had time to wear off. Well that was partially true…

Fast forward about six months when I went north to visit my family. My sister walked into my parents’ house and pupper ran to greet my sister. Stopped dead in her tracks and started growling and barking. Hackles raised, full protection mode. My sisters husband had just walked in behind her.

My precious puppy wanted NOTHING to do with him. She barked, growled, ran away, and sat between him and my sister. Y'all my dog had spent maybe a weekend a half around my sister but protected her like this was her flesh and blood.

Eventually, my sister filed for divorce on grounds of “Extreme and repeated mental, emotional, and sexual abuse.” Divorce was final in less than a month because her claims were substantiated.

Trust the dog, honey. They KNOW.

I’ve never owned dogs, but I used to work with horses (which are a lot like big dogs).

There was this one horse I worked with named Tonto. He was a doll. He followed me like a puppy, snuck treats out of my pocket, he was the sweetest thing. We were practically inseparable.

A guy I was considering dating came to visit me one day, and Tonto wanted NOTHING to do with him. Normally well behaved, he shoved himself between us and would NOT let this guy near me. He was stomping, acting really aggressive, and tried to bite the guy. This horse was practically dragging me back toward the barn. At that moment, despite being like, 17, I knew something was up, and ultimately things didn’t pan out for guy and me.

A year later I found out he had lied about his age (he said he was 18 but he was actually 27) he was arrested for sexually assaulting an 11 year old girl.


I never owned a dog, but my cat Daisy can’t stand my dad. He used to be super emotionally abusive towards me and my mom, but animals never forget or forgive. Daisy hits him and screams and hisses whenever he walks by and she is always in the same room as both of us. And the thing is she’s getting older, but still shows the same behavior, even with her arthritis diagnosis, which must make moving hurt a lot for her even with pain meds.I love her so much. If you give animals love and care they will defend you and look out for you to the end.

March 12 2017

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I’m so mad because this worked

help me roger

Reblogging myself because

Originally posted by gifs-for-the-masses

Reblogging myself because… what was that? Five minutes?


………my friend has made me curious

help me roger

Update: after I reblogged this someone messaged me offering me tickets to the sold out Hausu screening with a Q&A and autograph session with the director

These never work for me, but here’s to trying.

  1. I don’t believe in these things
  2. But last time I reblogged one ten/fifteen minutes later I got a call offering me a job
  3. But I reblogged it because I was waiting on hearing back from the job. So there you go.
  4. Roger is cute.

Eh Roger is cute I might as well

That fish is so happy it makes me happy.

Reblogging myself because I reblogged this yesterday and got promoted today!

spreading some good luck to myself and my followers to kick off the new year! work ur magic roger!!

March 10 2017

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This is disgustingly ableist. Disabled people have worth, their labor has value, they’re working just like everyone else so they should get paid as much as everyone else. Why are we debating this??? It’s common sense!

Unfortunately, it’s already a legal loophole that is consistently exploited in the United States, for one place: https://nfb.org/fair-wages

March 07 2017

Yesterday may have been the day Squidward went to the future....


But today is the grand opening ceremony for The Krusty Krab 2!

March 06 2017

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Elsa the Cutest, queen of Arendelle

January 31 2017

January 29 2017

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so pure 😭


im glad that “what does the fox say” and dabbing weren’t popular at the same time

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When poets were POETS.


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meowth man get me a cheesy potato burrito

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